Danny Schaffer

Danny Schaffer

We lived in small New England towns, then moved to Mountain Brook, Alabama. My parents publicly questioned institutional racism, and we had family meetings to discuss prejudice. The racism and antisemitism I experienced in Mountain Brook were profoundly upsetting. When I grew up, I married a Chinese immigrant and became a stay-at-home dad. I’ve taught Re-evaluation Counseling (listeningwell.info) for over fifty years, and we do a lot of work on childhood memories of racism and other oppressions … They can arrest us in the street, but no one can stop the revolution of the mind!

Over the Mountain

It was a muggy Sunday in September 1963. I was ten years old, standing in the kitchen when the phone rang. It was Ethel, whom we called our “maid.” I don’t remember her last name. She was a domestic worker who cleaned our house and often took care of us. She called my parents, “Mr. and Mrs. Schaffer,” but she was only addressed by her first name. We lived in the all-white neighborhood of Mountain Brook, Alabama.

My father took the phone from me. Ethel was wailing and screaming. I knew something traumatic had happened, and I was terrified. My father tried to get Ethel to tell him what happened. After an hour or so, he got off the phone. He turned to me and said that Ethel’s daughter’s best friend, Denise*, had been murdered along with other children. A bomb had exploded at Ethel’s church. He said, “We’re next.”